Thursday, March 27, 2014

Break Free From The Affair Review


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There is no easy button to end an affair, but this book will make you a lot more clear about what has caused your affair. where your affair is heading, what type of affair you're in and, finally, how to end it and stop all the pain.

This is not an ordinary ebook, as it goes into some pretty deep psychological stuff. The person behind it, Dr. Bob Cummings (yes, he’s a doctor) knows his stuff.

In his book, you will learn:
  • 7 different types of affairs.  You can pinpoint which affair type you are in, as different types need to be handled differently.
  • How you can predict WHERE your affair is heading. Yes, you can tell exactly what is going to happen down the road by certain signs. These are pure genius.
  • How to save your marriage even if you've been caught cheating, and turn a crisis into new opportunity. This is something most people screw up totally.
  • Which strategy works best in your situation.
Yes, Dr Cummings do not just scratch the surface and adopt a "one-solution to all" attitude.

Just look at what are the 7 types of affairs he has identified:
  • My Marriage Made Me Do It
  • I Can't Say No
  • I Don't Wang To Say No
  • I Fell Out Of Love (and just love to be in love)
  • I Want To Get Back At Him/Her
  • I Need To Prove My Desirability
  • I Want To Be Close To Someone (which means I can't stand intimacy)
In the "how to" part, he is very specific by showing you exactly when and how to:
  • send messages
  • use silence
  • get to the real commitment
  • leap your partner
  • look for upset
  • contextualize
  • peel away layers to the truth
  • gap the goal
  • and 8 more skills and communication tools
If you are stuck in a messy relationship, this book is a must read. What it offers is not just a why and how, but also an encouragement.

Top Tips To Help You End Your Affair With Minimal Pain

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Granted, ending an affair is never easy.  However, I am going to share with you 3 tips that will help you deal with the situation with less pain.

Tip number 1 is simple…do it now! If you made the decision to end this relationship, you'd better speak this out quickly.  You know, people do NOT give up easily.  The longer you wait, the more attached your partner will get. You don't want the situation become even harder, do you?

Tip number 2 is not as simple…be direct! Beating around the bush just doesn't help. Approach your partner and simply say, “We have to talk.” When your partner asks, “About what?” you simply say, “About us.” Don’t hem and haw. Don’t look around the room. Look directly in your partner’s eyes and give it to them straight.

Tip number 3 is to make them understand that the relationship was a two way street and it wasn’t all their fault. Take responsibility for your role in the disaster. Trust me, it really DOES take two to dance the tango, but the key point is your relationship is no longer repairable.

Like I said, there is no easy way to breakup with somebody, but if you do it quickly, if you’re direct and if you accept some blame, it will go a lot better than you think. Every breakup will lead to a great start!



Some Workable Advice To Help You End Your Relationship

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Are you thinking of putting an end to your affair?  Are you under the stress of being unable to do it the easier way?  Granted, ending an affair, despite how bad your relationship might be, is not a happy situation. However, you may consider using the advice in this article just to ease the process a little bit.

First and foremost, you need to be direct but sympathetic. If you are the person have decided to let it go, your partner may not think the same way. You need to step into his/her shoes and show some compassion.  Of course, we are discussing people who deserve the compassion, not someone who are mean and really should be kicked off quickly.

Second, not all breakups have to be put up in a harsh way. You can sit down with the person and start by talking about your good time. Anyway, no relationship is totally black or white.  By starting with the good past, you help ease the blow a little bit.

Then, you need to explain why you believe you are no longer suitable to be together. Your explanation needs to be clear and to the points with reasons and facts that are hard to be beat. Don't be vague too general in your explanation. That way, your "after affair" relationship will be even harder.

Finally, and maybe the most important thing, take responsibility for your part of the breakup. It’s never just one person’s fault. Being honest about what you did wrong will make the sad reality a little more acceptable.

If you want more info on this sensitive subject, you can check out this great resources with a lot more details.

How To End An Affair The Easy Way

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Ending an affair is never easy.  The hardest five words to say to anyone, especially the one you loved are probably "I don't love you anymore!"  If you are reading this, you are probably one of those people who do not seem to have found the right way to put an end to a relationship.

Honestly, there is no easy way to say goodbye.  Endings, good or bad, are inevitably hard.  Let's face it, even the worst marriages have a hard time to letting go.  It is even tougher, or messier, when one party tries to break free from the relationship while the other party is still enjoying.  In very rare cases would the other party say with calm, "Oh, I understand that ... no problem."

My first advice to you is - don't put it off if you have made up your mind.  The longer you make things drag on, the worse it will get.  You are not doing any favor to anyone by waiting another week or month.  The pain won't get less.  If you do not see any future in a relationship, don't keep it hanging on.

Next, you need to be direct, as people appreciate directness.  The best approach is to tell the other party that your relationship "isn't working" and then explain why.  A well thought out explanation, including plain facts, will really serve the communication really well. So, don't beat around the bush.

If you want more advice on this subject, check out this site which is a great resource to help you with details.